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Promoting self-love is important to me, particularly during this month of love when it is so easy for some to become depressed about their relationship status. Why am I alone? What is wrong with me? These are some of the questions you may have asked yourself but you need to S-T-O-P! Not being in a relationship with another person does not mean that there is something wrong with you or that you will die alone. When you feel like there is a void deep within that you need to fill

It’s probably the third year that I’m going to be single and alone on Valentine’s Day but who’s counting? Valentine’s Day is another day of the year in my world. Single or in a relationship, I’m not fussed about it. But, let’s be honest, if you’re single, it sucks just a little when your colleagues at work keep talking about their valentine’s day plans with their significant other. Or when they have flowers and chocolates sent to work by an admirer while your plans are looking as bleak as a

A few weeks ago, I decided to give online dating another try. My first online dating experience was in 2015, not too long after a  painful breakup with an ex. They say that the best way to get over a man is to get under another one and so I wanted to test the theory. While I was not looking to get ‘under’ another man, I felt the need to create new experiences and meet new people. I had tried going out with my single girlfriends and partying it up

My move back home to Nigeria from South Africa was more accidental than intentional. I’d planned to return home for four weeks to enjoy some quality time with my family whom I don’t see very often and to renew my visa but things didn’t go quite as planned. Twenty weeks later, I find myself still in Lagos eagerly anticipating my return to South Africa, a country I also call home. For some, the move back home after years of living overseas is not coincidental but carefully and thoughtfully planned. Many

Yes, someone said that to me and yes, she was a black, African woman whose skin colour was a shade or two lighter than mine. “You’re pretty for a dark skin girl”, she said, and she meant it as a compliment (I think). What the fuck does that mean? How can you be so fucking ignorant? You’re what is wrong with the world. These and more were some of the things I wanted to scream at her but instead, I smiled and graciously said “thanks, but there are other pretty

Even the most confident people have moments of self-doubt. You won’t be human if you didn’t. Clark Kent had moments of doubt and he was Superman. If you have moments where you worry that you’re not good enough, I want you to know that you’re not alone. There are millions, if not billions of women out there who go through this debilitating feeling on a daily basis. I’m not ashamed to say that I too sometimes suffer from self-doubt but it is crippling and it keeps you from making any

I see this everywhere, girl boss this, girl boss that. There is even a book by Sophia Amoruso called Girl Boss. Although I haven’t read the book, I can deduce what it’s about just from the title. Our aspirations as women are changing for the better. College education, getting a good job or starting a business are just some of the things women now prioritise in their lives. I am proud to say my generation – millennials – are doing big things and want more from life than to be

“A woman at a certain age who is unmarried, our society teaches her to see it as a deep personal failure. And a man, after a certain age isn’t married, we just think he hasn’t come around to making his pick.” This excerpt from Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s book, We Should All Be Feminists is the perfect quote to start off this article.  What is the obsession women have with marriage? Why is it so important to find a man, settle down and have kids? After a certain age, family and

Our lives get so busy and we’re constantly on the go that we forget that some time out is actually needed and is the best thing we can do for ourselves. Two months ago, I did the unexpected and asked my boss for leave – two months unpaid leave. Two months is a long time to go without earning a salary but I knew something had to give. I was either going to suffer being broke for a while or work myself to a mental breakdown – the former seemed

I’m not usually one to follow trends but there are quite a few that I’m loving at the moment and fishnet stocking is one of them. Ever since this trend resurfaced sometime last year, I knew I had to own a pair. I searched high and low for them in South Africa but none of the major stores like The Lot, Top Shop, H&M or Zara stocked them so I ended up ordering from ASOS UK which was not a very good experience. Based on my experience, I doubt I’ll ever

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