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Lately, I’ve had a few requests from aspiring bloggers asking me to give them some insight into the world of blogging. Like I’m an expert. Three years later and I’m still trying to figure this blogging thing out. But having been riding this pony for a while, I have learnt some invaluable lessons. Some of which I wish someone had told me about before I embarked on this journey. Here are some of the things no one ever tells you about blogging Blogging is a full-time job and requires commitment

Yes, keeping up appearances does come at a cost, just look at #visabae. This young Zimbabwean lady living in the UK asked her viewers/subscribers on Youtube to donate some money towards her visa application. Rutendo Tichiwangani aka RLT on Instagram and Youtube shared a 30-minute sob story on her Youtube channel, I have one month left, essentially asking people to donate  GBP 2300 in order for her to apply for indefinite stay in the UK. GBP 2300 is R39 000. In naira, that is an equivalent of  N 1 166

I’ve been wanting to write a post on Instagram addiction and its effects for a while now. I’ve actually gone as far as to write up to four paragraphs on the topic but never finished it. An article I read online on Huffington Post about Instagram influencers and how they are all starting to look the same spurred me to actually start a dialogue on the subject matter. Before I delve into the effects of Instagram addiction, perhaps let’s clarify what addiction is, shall we? Addiction is not just about

Have you ever heard someone say, “dark skin women can’t wear pink?”  It’s a lie! Growing up, I was taught to believe my skin colour limited the choices of colour I could wear. Red, blue, orange and such were colours I thought I had to steer clear of, colours I adored and was drawn to. Until one day, I dared to challenge this rulebook and I, for the life of me don’t know who came up with such nonsense. I don’t remember exactly when it was that  I saw the

Promoting self-love is important to me, particularly during this month of love when it is so easy for some to become depressed about their relationship status. Why am I alone? What is wrong with me? These are some of the questions you may have asked yourself but you need to S-T-O-P! Not being in a relationship with another person does not mean that there is something wrong with you or that you will die alone. When you feel like there is a void deep within that you need to fill

It’s probably the third year that I’m going to be single and alone on Valentine’s Day but who’s counting? Valentine’s Day is another day of the year in my world. Single or in a relationship, I’m not fussed about it. But, let’s be honest, if you’re single, it sucks just a little when your colleagues at work keep talking about their valentine’s day plans with their significant other. Or when they have flowers and chocolates sent to work by an admirer while your plans are looking as bleak as a

A few weeks ago, I decided to give online dating another try. My first online dating experience was in 2015, not too long after a  painful breakup with an ex. They say that the best way to get over a man is to get under another one and so I wanted to test the theory. While I was not looking to get ‘under’ another man, I felt the need to create new experiences and meet new people. I had tried going out with my single girlfriends and partying it up

My move back home to Nigeria from South Africa was more accidental than intentional. I’d planned to return home for four weeks to enjoy some quality time with my family whom I don’t see very often and to renew my visa but things didn’t go quite as planned. Twenty weeks later, I find myself still in Lagos eagerly anticipating my return to South Africa, a country I also call home. For some, the move back home after years of living overseas is not coincidental but carefully and thoughtfully planned. Many

Yes, someone said that to me and yes, she was a black, African woman whose skin colour was a shade or two lighter than mine. “You’re pretty for a dark skin girl”, she said, and she meant it as a compliment (I think). What the fuck does that mean? How can you be so fucking ignorant? You’re what is wrong with the world. These and more were some of the things I wanted to scream at her but instead, I smiled and graciously said “thanks, but there are other pretty

Even the most confident people have moments of self-doubt. You won’t be human if you didn’t. Clark Kent had moments of doubt and he was Superman. If you have moments where you worry that you’re not good enough, I want you to know that you’re not alone. There are millions, if not billions of women out there who go through this debilitating feeling on a daily basis. I’m not ashamed to say that I too sometimes suffer from self-doubt but it is crippling and it keeps you from making any

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