7 Habits of Self-Loving Women

Promoting self-love is important to me, particularly during this month of love when it is so easy for some to become depressed about their relationship status. Why am I alone? What is wrong with me? These are some of the questions you may have asked yourself but you need to S-T-O-P!

Not being in a relationship with another person does not mean that there is something wrong with you or that you will die alone. When you feel like there is a void deep within that you need to fill with another human being – a man, woman or child- this is actually when you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your life and figure out the source of this need.

You are complete on your own, or at least you should be. When you need someone or something else to complete you then you are creating an unhealthy environment for co-dependency.

It’s true, no man is an island so we all need people but don’t need people so much that you forget to get to know the one person that matters the most – YOU.

Making a conscious effort to improve the relationship with yourself can yield so many rewards. Self-love is not an easy thing to master but it can be done.

Here are 7 habits of Self-loving Women
    1.  Don’t doubt yourself

      You waste time and you worry yourself sick when you go back and forth in your head about “should I?”, “shouldn’t I?”. Weigh the pros and cons before making any decision. If there are more cons than there are pros then cut it or him lose and don’t give it a second thought – move on!

    2. Don’t be too hard on yourself

      We all make mistakes, it is how we learn and grow. You can’t learn if you don’t make mistakes and if you don’t learn, you don’t grow. If you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up about it for years to come, just accept that you made a mistake. Figure out how you could have avoided the mistake and do better next time.

    3. Do practice self-affirmations

      Self-love is loving yourself mind body and soul. You’re not going to love yourself more when you lose 5kgS. That’s just superficial nonsense which is actually indicative of a lack of love. Love yourself as you are today, not as you will be tomorrow. Tell yourself you are smart, kind, great friend/mother/wife/child. Say no to any self-deprecating thoughts that make you feel less than great.

    4. Stop with the comparisons

      To love yourself is to NOT compare yourself to others. Nothing good was ever accomplished by comparison. It’s such a depressing place to be because you will always feel like you are not good enough. Social media makes this really difficult too but if to love yourself, you have to give up Instagram, please do it.

    5. Put yourself first

      I overheard a conversation with a couple and a third party at a bar the other day. The man went on about how women forget to love themselves when they’re in a relationship. He said women tend to love the man they’re in a relationship with so much that the man 99% of the time takes advantage. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, it’s important to take time for numero uno (number 1). Whether it’s going out to the movies or sleeping in all day on a Saturday, just take that time.

    6. Be assertive

      A big part of self-love is not compromising your values. If you know who you are and what you want, speak your mind. At work, don’t let your voice go unheard. If you feel that you have something valuable to contribute, SAY IT! Even if you miss the mark, you’ll feel proud and value yourself more when you choose to shine instead of cowering.

    7. Educate yourself

      This is a big thing. Education doesn’t necessarily have to do with academics. It’s learning new things. Take the time to learn something new every day. Feed your mind, expand your horizon.

      When you spend time on these, you are bound to see a positive change in your life. Because when you’re so busy loving and improving yourself, you’re not focused on societal pressures like finding a man or getting married.

I love these two quotes:

When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me – Dr Steve Maraboli.

To love oneself is a beginning of a lifelong romance – Oscar Wilde.

Happy Valentine’s day. I hope you’ve enjoyed reading today’s post.

Have you read my previous post, Alone again on Valentine’s Day?


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