Alone again on Valentine’s Day?

It’s probably the third year that I’m going to be single and alone on Valentine’s Day but who’s counting?

Valentine’s Day is another day of the year in my world. Single or in a relationship, I’m not fussed about it. But, let’s be honest, if you’re single, it sucks just a little when your colleagues at work keep talking about their valentine’s day plans with their significant other. Or when they have flowers and chocolates sent to work by an admirer while your plans are looking as bleak as a dried up well, doesn’t it?

Last year, I took myself out on a date to the movies. I went to watch 50 shades of grey and I’m doing the same this year. I’m going to watch the highly anticipated (by me) Fifty Shades Freed.

But this post is not about me. It’s about the girls and ladies out there who feel down in the dumps about their lives particularly on Valentine’s Day. Last year, I wrote a post about 5 things every single girl can do on Valentine’s day. You can read it here.

Today’s post is kind of like a part 2 of last year’s post. Self-love is undoubtedly the best kind of love. No matter your relationship status, the love of self is the most important because it is forever. Single or in a relationship you’ll never feel fulfilled if you’re not loving and investing in yourself.I don’t even like the word “single”. I prefer to think of it as “in a relationship with self”.

I’ve learnt so many things about myself in the past few years. Things I would never have known if I was in a committed relationship. Life is meant to be lived, don’t spend it worrying about who you’re with or not.  Instead, invest in yourself, love yourself so that you can be the best version of you. If you don’t know who you are, you can become lost in a relationship.

Invest in yourself instead of waiting for someone to authenticate your worth. True happiness comes from within, not from your partner or your parents or friends. Spend the month of love loving, but love you first.

Here is my list of suggestions on how to love yourself this Valentine’s Day

1. 1. 1. Gift Yourself

         If you’re a flower and chocolate kind of girl buy yourself those damn flowers. You’re the perfect person to treat yourself because you know what you love. Order some flowers and chocolate and have it sent to your office or home. Netflorist, Interflora and Floraniche are just a few of the sites you can order from. You can even write a special note to yourself which can be delivered with your order.

      2. Dress up and Slay

         I’m always down to dress up. It’s what I do, and honestly, it’s kind of therapeutic because if you look good, you feel good. Try it.

      3. Single and Mingle party

         You’re not the only single gal in the country. There are lots of other single gals and guys looking to mingle, why not attend a singles party? There are always a few planned around this time of the year. Check out Joburg.co.za or 702.co.za for #single valentine’s party.

      4. Create a man list

         Last and most importantly, create a man list. What are the qualities you’re looking for in a man? Write them down, work on yourself, date but always refer back to your man list. It will save you wasting your time on the wrong men.

         It may not be possible to find a man who has 100% of the qualities we’re looking for but don’t settle for anything less than 90%.

         

   

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5. And on that note, I wish you a happy valentine’s day/month. In the words of Buddha, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”.

   Co-ord pantsuit was made by me but you can shop a similar look on Asos here.

   Heels: Steve Madden

   Thanks for reading. If you’ve enjoyed reading this post please leave me a comment. Also, you can share your tips on how to show yourself love on Valentine’s Day.